It's very important to me that my baby sleeps well. And that she learns to fall asleep by herself because I can't be there all the time. And that she falls asleep in her own bed.
I've been working on this since she was days old. I had it down, too. Until she got sick at 2 months and had a hard time sleeping and didn't feel well so she wanted to be held. For a month. She had a cold then an ear infection and then shots and all that added up to over a month. She is finally all better and has been sleeping so well for the last week.
This is her schedule. Wake up around 8:30 eats and is awake till around 10 and then goes down for her first nap. That nap is anywhere from 2 to 2 1/2 hours. She wakes up, eats and is up for another hour and a half and then goes down again for 2 hours. Wakes up, eats and is up for an hour and a half to two hours and then goes down. This third nap is 30 minutes or an hour and sometimes an hour and a half. Then she wakes up, eats and is up until around 8 and then goes down. She wakes up once during the night about 8 hours into her 12 hours and eats then goes right back down.
She does so well with this. She is so happy when she is awake and doesn't give me much of a problem when I put her down. She fusses a little bit but I just calm her down to where she's done fussing and then I leave and she falls asleep on her own. It's been wonderful!
Then today happened. She napped for 2 1/2 hours for her first nap. Then her second went down like normal until she hit 30 minutes. She woke up talking and cooing and smiling and laughing at her mobile. Then started to fuss, I went in and gave her her pacifier which normally calms her down and she falls right back to sleep. For about 10 minutes she fussed a little. Then she started to cry. I came in and tried to calm her down. Now, when I calm her down it works and she falls back to sleep. But not today. She screamed and screamed and screamed. I refused to pick her up as I didn't want to teach her that she cries and she get's picked up. But after about 40 minutes I couldn't take anymore. I couldn't leave her because I don't think I'm emotionally able to let her "cry it out". So I picked her up and she stayed up and was fine for 2 hours. She went down for her third nap and only slept 30 minutes and woke up and did the same thing but not nearly as bad for her dad. Mostly just complaining through her paci.
After 30 minutes we decided to just pick her up and let her be awake. We laid her down at 8:00 and she fell RIGHT to sleep. She was SO TIRED. Her eyes have been red since her second nap fiasco and she's exhausted. I felt so bad!
She is so used to sleeping on her own that she doesn't necessarily like sleeping on someone and if she does she doesn't sleep well. Right now I'm watching her sleeping on her monitor. She is crying and crying in her sleep! She's not sleeping well. I only hope she sleeps for 12 hours like normal so tomorrow will hopefully go like it's supposed to.
The girl needs her sleep. I need her naps. I get so much done!
So my question is.... do I not even go in when she wakes after the 30 minutes. I don't ever let her see me when I do this. Do I just let her fuss and cry herself back to sleep? Should I let her cry it out? (I'm so afraid of doing this, by the way) Do I go in and sooth her back to sleep? I wont pick her up, though.
I need my happy baby. It's so incredibly sad to see her crying in her sleep right now. She's not sleeping well.
What did you do? What worked for you? I don't think I'm expecting too much out of my 3 1/2 month old since she has been doing this so well even when she was only a few weeks old.
Help! I can't have a repeat of today.